Am I too demanding of my husband?

I am a newlywed and I am so very sad at the moment that I don't know where to begin. My husband and I dated for a while and during our engagement we outlined how the household would be handled. I am old-fashioned. I cook, clean, wash and handle the payment of the bills. I usually require that a man cover all the bills but my husband has other financial obligations and I wanted ot be reasonable. Well we are married and now I pay out 2/3 of the bills and all of the groceries and handle all of the other obligations I stated at first. I work full time? For my husbands wedding gift, I got him a PS3. He got me nothing. At least once a week he has folks over playing video games (usually it is two times a week). On other days he plays with people online. He works midnights, comes home and plays the video game. When I come home from work he is in the bed because he was up playing video games? He didn't do this for the entire year we dated? He always made time for me? Now I feel like a chore. So I am tired even though we have been married less than two years? I tell him I feel unappreciated and he tells me that I am dominating and controlling. All I asked of him is to make my load a little litter especially with his finances being so jacked up. If you can't put gas in the car, don't drive everybody around. If you can replace the food in the refridgerator don't eat it all in one day. Pick up after yourself. How is it that you have money for beer and not for food? All in all I feel I married a child. I search our entire courtship to see signs of where this would have shown and I can only find that we should have dated longer. Anyway, I don't want to offend him but it is hard not to. He is super sensitive. I need to share my feelings with him because it is affecting the bedroom and he is wondering why. I have no desire to be with him intimatinly. I'm tired. I may be leaving some things out so ask away. I guess I need help trying to make him see my pain and sadness so our relationship can be saved. I just think he is being selfish. I would do anything for him but now I am pulling away and I can feel it emotionally.